Sunday, December 16, 2012

PARENTING RESOURCES



GENERAL CONFERENCE TALKS

“Mothers and Daughters” by Elder M. Russell Ballard, Ensign, May 2010
Help Them on Their Way Home by Pres. Henry B. Eyring, Ensign, May 2010
“Mothers Teaching Children in the Home,” Elder L. Tom Perry, Ensign, May 2010
“Watching With All Perseverance,” Elder David A. Bednar, Ensign, May 2010
“Continue in Patience,” President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, Ensign, May 2010
“Mother Told Me,” Elder Bradley D. Foster, Ensign, May 2010
“Tell Me the Stories of Jesus,” Elder Neil L. Andersen, Ensign, May 2010
“Face the Future with Faith,” Elder Russell M. Nelson, Ensign, May 2011
“Establishing a Christ-Centered Home,” Elder Richard J. Maynes, Ensign, May 2011
“Creating a Gospel Sharing Home,” Elder M. Russell Ballard, Ensign, May 2006
“More Diligent and Concerned at Home,” Elder David A. Bednar, Ensign, Nov. 2009
“Dear are the Sheep that Have Wandered,” Faust, Ensign, May 2003
“Mothers Who Know,” Sister Beck
“Getting Over Feeling Underappreciated,” Brad Wilcox, Ensign, March 2004
“Teach Them to Understand,” Elder David A. Bednar, Ricks Devotional, June 4, 1998
“Are We Not All Mothers?” Sister Dew, Ensign, Nov. 2001
“What Manner of Men and Women Ought Ye to Be?” Elder Lynn G. Robbins, Ensign, May 2011

BOOKS ON PARENTING

The Parenting Breakthrough: Real-Life Plan to teach kids to work, save money, and be truly independent 
by Merrilee Browne Boyack
Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood (Practical Parenting from Birth to Six Years) by Jim Fay and Charles Fay
The Entitlement Trap (how to rescue your child with a new family system of choosing, earning, and ownership) by Richard and Linda Eyre
Teaching Your Children Values by Linda and Richard Eyre
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Setting Limits with your Strong-willed Child by Robert J. MacKenzie (I HIGHLY recommend this book for anyone with an independent little one!)
Rock Solid Relationships by Wendy L. Watson
1-2-3 Magic:Effective Discipline for Children 2-12 by Thomas W. Phelan

FANTASTIC WEBSITE FOR MOTHERS

http://powerofmoms.com/

This is from the Power of Moms Website:

You’ve arrived at a gathering place for moms who want to be deliberate about their mothering* as they work to not only do a good job raising their children, but also learn and grow themselves through the experience of motherhood.
We’ve got over 70 writers, 50 trainers, and 30 board members (all “regular moms” who want to learn and share with other moms) working together to create the great new posts, podcasts, videos and programs available every day on this site.
More than one million moms have come to our website for inspiration, comfort and the tools they need to progress as mothers while finding joy in the journey.
Please know that we really want YOU here.  We need your voice.  We need your perspective.  Regardless of your employment situation, your background, your marital status, or your ability to make it through the bedtime routine without losing it, you belong here. And TOGETHER, we are The Power of Moms.
*In our opinion, “deliberate motherhood” means you really think about what you do as a mom. You really care about your family and want the best for them. Plus you want to learn and grow and develop yourself as a person through the experience of motherhood. You live life purposefully. You embrace what you uniquely bring to your family.
 

 

Age Appropriate Chore Chart & Training



I love the book by Merrilee Browne Boyack entitled The Parenting Breakthrough. The author not only lists what jobs are age appropriate, but goes into details on how to really TRAIN your kids to be able to master their chores. She doesn’t just send a kid into a bathroom to clean it and expect them to magically understand that they were supposed to wipe down the walls, the mirrors, and clean the toilet in a certain manner. She has training sessions where they are repeatedly shown the proper way of cleaning. Once they master the skill, she lets them do it on their own and simply checks their work when they are done. The beauty of this system is that you don’t always have to be the trainer. If it’s the year to learn how to change a flat tire, you can enlist Grandpa as the trainer. If it’s the year to learn to make bread, you can enlist an aunt or a close friend to come and teach them.

The author also links certain skills to certain privileges. For example, before her kids are allowed to babysit, they need to complete a first aid training class, be certified in CPR, and know how to cook some simple meals. Brilliant! If the kids that are being babysat get injured, her kids will know how to handle it. If they are hungry, her kids know how to cook some simple meals to feed them! She doesn’t have to worry about how her kids will do because she’s made sure her children are prepared.  

Here are some of the age-appropriate chores:

SIX
Take shower

Dust

Load dishwasher

Empty dishwasher

Clean sinks

Run microwave

Water plants

Make and answer phone calls

TEN
Do own laundry completely

Maintain personal journal

Participate in exercise program

Rent videos clean stove

Clean oven

Make several kinds of salad

Understand basic nutrition

Use leaf blower

Plant plants

Know articles of faith

Write creatively

Can peaches

Make jam

Mow lawn

Set personal goals

THIRTEEN

Plan a vacation
Keep a simple budget
Sew simple items
Pay household bills
Shop for clothing and other items
Use ATM
Find bargains
Certify for CPR
Plan parties
Type without looking
Have own recipe files
Go to movies without parents
Shop for groceries
Understand prescriptions
Care for plants
Learn meat-handling rules
Learn etiquette rules
Sell items on internet